I made it three weeks before having sex with Z. Funny how that’s a long time, nowadays. Everyone I told acted like I was holding out for years. In other news, I feel okay about it. I don’t think it changed anything, and we decided afterward to only see each other. That would make him my boyfriend. Right?
I guess, though, there’s always this little insecure part of me that wonders, now that he’s had it, is he going to back away? Will the dates stop? Will the cuddling stop? Will the, “I really like you’s” and the “You’re amazings” become few and far between?
Just because I decided to have sex with him?
He’s a great guy, and I believe that he likes me, but I’ve been burned enough times that it’s hard for me to not wait for the other shoe to drop. The “I’m not looking for a relationship” phone call, or a lack of phone calls at all. I get scared, and I don’t want to ask for reassurance or confirmation. I just want to trust the fact that I’m the kind of girl he could like. I think I am. Right?
June 30, 2008 at 1:26 pm |
Gosh, that’s an impossible question to answer. I’d have to say, as a guy, that most guys probably want more than sex. Then again I’m only me, so I can’t speak for all guys. We’re half of humanity, ya know.
June 30, 2008 at 5:23 pm |
well, i guess in that country things are really different than here, here in my city, yes sometimes 3 weeks its a lot to wait have sex, but that means its not your girlfriend, if it really is you can wait a whole year, after all, the woman is always the one who decides, im a man, we always want sex, but i know i can wait, if its a good relationship, why rush things, and if sex isnt much of a deal, then it isnt important, then its not a good relationship, maybe i grew up the in the old ways, when a man have sex with a woman…that means you love her, nowadays thats not true, you are just horny mmmm, how bad…but well
take care
July 1, 2008 at 7:56 am |
Eh, probably not. You seem like the type to wake him up in the middle of the night and bother him about all sorts of ridiculous crap.
July 1, 2008 at 9:39 am |
I laughed at that one. you have me pegged.